If you thought that the only thing you are required to do to contribute to your wedding day is simply to turn up and put a ring on it, then you are in for a shock.
In preparation for the big event, your bride to be, and most of her family will go into a pre wedding frenzy, from the very moment she agrees to marry you, and it will be the main topic of every conversation, every phone call to her Mum, and every text to her mates for months, sometimes years to come.
If you already live together, there will suddenly be strange carrier bags wedged in every cupboard full of weddingy type stuff, and extremely expensive glossy magazines will replace the TV guide on the arm of your sofa.
And these are the least of your worries. You’ve got many hurdles to overcome before you retire to the bridal suite on the night of your nuptials.
So what are the 3 most important jobs, as a prospective bridegroom that you really can’t fail on.
Viewing the Venues
Probably within a few days of her agreeing to marry you, she will be making plans to book a venue for the reception, and maybe even the wedding ceremony itself.
Your weekends will become very confusing, as you visit one venue after another, until you both agree on somewhere.
You may be of the opinion that it doesn’t really matter where it’s held, only that you will be celebrating with your family and friends. But your partner possibly won’t share that thought.
Enjoying Your Stag Do
There is no getting away from it, if you have an army of lifelong mates, you will be expected to endure/enjoy your stag do.
Your best man, and groomsmen will be plotting away behind the scenes to ensure that your boys weekend away will be unforgettable, for all the wrong reasons.
But you must get into the spirit of things, and go with the flow. Resign yourself to the fact that it will get messy, and although at the time everyone will appear to be totally drunk, your best man will have instant recall when it comes to the speeches at the wedding itself, and photographic evidence probably will be produced to ensure the utmost embarrassment.
Walking down the aisle, and repeating your wedding vows will seem like a walk in the park compared to the moment you are expected to stand up in front of a sea of wedding guests, and make a speech.
Make no mistake you will be judged accordingly, and the best way to deal with this is to make it short, and exceptionally sweet. However a mere ‘thank you for coming’, just will not do.
Whilst your bride is planning her entrance, you need to be planning your speech. Watch as many YouTube videos as you can, of extremely good, and extremely bad speeches, and take notes.
If you get it right you will be everyone’s hero, the applause will follow, and you can breathe a sigh of relief. No pressure then.